Monday, May 12, 2008

What Kind Of Gone?

Is it the kind of gone where (s)he's at her mom's, coolin' down (s)he'll come around?
Or the kind that says you've had your chance and (s)he ain't comin' back?


Don't know when/if I'll be back, but I wanted to let you all know. Thanks to the few of you who connected with me, knowing something was up. I really appreciate it. This time, I just can't get by. I've done this to myself.

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.


Someday I'll learn.

88 comments:

Jess said...

I know we've already discussed this at length, but again--I'm so sorry. And I know it's really hard right now, but you so deserve something better than what you had with him. You'll get there. In the meantime, I'm around if you want to talk.

brookem said...

Aww. I'm sorry girlie. Big big e-hugs to you.

Making my way in PA said...

Hope things get better!

HUGS!

Hope said...

I was wondering where you had disappeared to. I am so sorry. Big, big hugs to you!

midnite99 said...

{{{{hugs}}}} Hang in there, hon...Sending lots of good thoughts and support and strength your way.

togethertheycome said...

Crap, Crap, Crappity, Crap CRAP!!!!

I'm so sorry for you. BEEN THERE!! I promise, you will be fine. Gosh, I just hate it because I know how you must feel.

I hope you come back.

Rachel said...

Hang in there...I'm thinking of you, and I know how hard this is for you. I can completely relate, as I was engaged before I was cheated on a few years ago, so I can understand the hurt that you are going through. If you need to talk, I'm here.

JMC said...

I'm still available (well, after I leave my husband, which I will gladly do for that garlic cheddar chicken). ;)

Seriously, though, if what I am gleaning from the comments here is correct, he is a jerk and doesn't deserve you. Not that that will make it suck any less right now. I do hope you come back.

Elise said...

So, so sorry to hear about all this crap! Everyone is right, you deserve hugs and love, not the ugh. I know you know it gets better, but right now, I am sad for and with you.

Tipp said...

Ugh, my heart hurts for you.

Heal, heal, heal.

Be angry. Cry. Be hysterical. Eat lots. Eat nothing. Cry more.

Then, be well.

You are missed.

Lots of hugs.

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rachel said...

This sucks so bad, we all love you. We are all here for you. Even if it's just to tell you to focus on the next 2 minutes ahead and not the last year. You are stronger then you know.

Gretta James said...

I've been living off that phrase this past week too!

I hear you.

Gretta x

Gretta James said...

I've been living off that phrase this past week too!

I hear you.

Gretta x

K said...

Fool me once shame on you.
Fool me twice shame on me.

Its all so true. Ive been there and I am healing.

You too will heal.

Sizzle said...

Be good to yourself.

nuttycow said...

Luck and hugs.

NC

thecasualperfectionist.com said...

:(
*hugs*

Alexa said...

i'm so sorry michelle. i know you will work it out with yourself.

but think of yourself first.

if it means not blogging so be it. but know that when you are ready to get back on the saddle your readers will be ready to read.

::hug::

ANG* said...

eeeek :( be strong darling!

*kb* said...

Be kind to yourself Michelle!! Sometimes it just takes us a few times to figure things out and that's ok!! xoxo *kb*

Kt said...

I just wrote a long response and it erased.

Time is the biggest healer. Give yourself a little break on this one - we've all been in a relationship that it took awhile to figure out wasn't right - and we couldn't listen to anyone's warnings because we had to figure it out ourselves.

Keep your head up - and bitch, cry or be silent when you need to!

3carnations said...

Sorry. We've all been there (fool me twice). It's hard, but you'll come out of it, eventually, stronger and wiser.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

I don't know whats going on but I HOPE THAT THINGS GET BETTER......:( I'm sorry!! From reading this it sounds like I've definitely been there...

ChasingParadise said...

I <3 you, Michelle. I'm so sorry about all of this crap. :( Take a break, you'll be back to blogging when you're good and ready. The rest of us understand. Heal your heart, and let me know if you need anything. Perhaps a few souvenirs from my trip to NYC this week?! Send me your address! PRONTO! Much love.

Passionista said...

It's not your fault. We make wrong choices sometimes, but there's no way to know until its too late. We'll miss you.

Laurie said...

I don't know your situation, but all I can say is WHAT A MAJOR JERK!

From everything I read on your blog, I can tell you are one amazing woman. Take this break to treat yourself to everything that makes you feel good. You deserve it!

Scotty said...

You never know what something will be, until you know what it's like. Hang in there Michelle, you'll be fine, and if you need a place to vent/think you know you have it here.

Katyn said...

oh...no...

... message me on facebook? <3

Nilsa S. said...

Clearly you have a lot of support. Though, I'm sure it doesn't make this time any easier. Hang in there, cutie. You'll get through this time and be a stronger woman on the other end. I know it.

Jenni said...

Oh Michelle...I hope you're ok! I'm thinking of you! :)

Keep your chin up! Just know that you are AMAZING and deserve the best.

Tina Vaziri said...

I'm so sorry you're hurting, big hugs. There's no shame in second chances, you had to find out what it could be like.

Nic said...

Oh hon, I'm so so sorry. I'm sending big hugs your way.

L Sass said...

I am so sorry. This colossally sucks, and you deserve so much better.

Sending you lots of hugs and good wishes.

nancypearlwannabe said...

Oh no! I'm so sorry. Please come back soon! We'll miss you, hope you're feeling better.

Wickedly Scarlett said...

Michelle... just last night I realized that I hadn't seen a new post from you in a while, and I began worrying. I'm so sorry to read this. I wish I had some kind of magical words to share with you, words that got me through the same pain, but all I can do is offer virtual hugs across the internets. I'm so sorry sweetie--come back when you're ready and not a moment before!

dreamgrrl said...

BOOOO
wtf ! I just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you & everyone here is behind you, and that should help you smile just a teeny tiny bit when you think you just can't
xoox

Brandi said...

Michelle - we all understand you taking some time off - but look at all these comments. You are clearly supported and will be well missed. You are a wonderful girl that anyone would love to be with.

We'll miss you - but take time for YOU.

sassafras said...

Oh no. I'm so sorry you're hurting. Hang in there. Thinking of you...

k said...

sometimes life is just plain shitty. best wishes with everything. given time, i know you'll come out on top!

nicoleantoinette said...

I was just thinking about you this morning, wondering where you've gone. This breaks my heart and I'm so sad for you. Do you want some virtual cheesecake? Or just to chat? I'm here. Really.

PrincessB said...

I'm so sorry. You'll be missed! I wish I had something wise to say, but I don't. I won't even say you'll get through this, even though you will, because it might not feel that way right now. I wish you the best!

Kim said...

Aw Hun. I'm so sorry something has happened. I can send you some ice cream and some good books/movies for post asshole days. :-) Let me know if you need anything. You're in my thoughts until you come back...

theselittlemoments said...

Like I said in my email -- I'm glad you're taking time for you. And I'm sending big hugs and virtual martinis and anything else a girl could need.

xoxo

Ashley E said...

oh sweetie I'm so sorry. I was just thinking of you over this weekend. If theres anything you need just let me know...chocolate....hugs....an ear or two....a couch in NYC to sleep on...i'm here for you. Hang in there. You will be missed but I'll be sure to find you on Gchat later. xoxoxo

Annie said...

I'm sorry, Michelle. I just went through a round two too and I'm getting over feeling like the shame is on me. There's no shame in something not working out, though it took me a while to get to that point.

If it makes you feel any better, everything everyone has said above is true. Above all... give yourself the benefit of the doubt. You deserve it!

Katelin said...

aw michelle i am so sorry. i hope you know you deserve the best and whatever shitty thing happened you don't need it.

sending lots of love and hugs your way :)

Lisa said...

You're a wonderful person, Michelle, and all these people who've never even seen you in real life adore you completely. Never lose touch with that, okay? I hope you heal soon, and that you come back to us when you do. Love you!

Larissa said...

I truly hope for lots of endurance and courage for you in this season you're in, Michelle!

Le Petit Chic said...

So sorry to hear this. As others before me have said, there is no shame in taking another chance at love. You're daring and optimistic and that's why you gave it another go. There is definitely no shame in that. Take care, hon.

livingolden said...

you'll be missed
&
we'll be here waiting

take care...

red-wench said...

No shame in giving love another chance. Else would you have always wondered, "What if?"

Unfortunately, now you know. But trust me, I've been there. Even more so - as I gave him a third chance when I really shouldn't have. But I don't regret it. Neither should you. You live, you learn, you grow.

I hope you will make it through the next little while ok - you definitely have tons of support from everyone. Good luck!

Dolce said...

Michelle, you're stronger than you give yourself credit for. I know everything will turn out for the best, even if you can't see it right now.

*hugs*

You'll be missed.

elysa said...

hey lady. I'm sorry I had no idea. I'm available if you need anything for real text, email, im, phone venting, stupid photoshopable laughing photo. ANYTHING!

Ripe for Reading said...

Oh no! You're already missed!

j*amy said...

you'll make it <3

courtney said...

*hugs*

i heart you!

Julie said...

Big hugs from Boston.

You know where I am if you need anything.

ToKissTheCook said...

well, fuck. it's a nightmare and there's no way around it other than just giving yourself the time to grieve. And don't go playing the "I brought this on myself" game. You didn't.

Looks like a lot of us have been here, some more than once, so while it hurts like hell right now, you know there's a bright spot in the distance.

toughtrigger said...

So, I definitely don't know the recent details about your situation...but let me just say. About breaking up/getting back together? I have been told this many a time, and I have told it to my dear ones many more times - it's not over until it's over, and you will know when that point is. So if you weren't done, then you needed to give things one more try, and I hope you don't beat yourself up for the fact that you chose to do so.

Because I think it shows an amazing amount of grace, a big heart, and a willingness to forgive. And although you wound up getting hurt again, doesn't that list of qualities sound awfully nice? Wouldn't you want to be friends with, or date, a person with all those lovely traits? I know I would. :)

Here's to looking toward a happier time.

alyndabear said...

Keeping it short and sweet but - am thinking of you. xo

Deutlich said...

::HUGS::

I know they're not "real" hugs and that it doesn't much help - but I'm definitely thinking about you and wishing you the best in all of this.

notperfectdotcom said...

I was hoping so hard.
I'm so so sorry Michelle.

Take care of yourself and take all the time you need doing it.

MrsTwink said...

Oh no! I'm so sorry to read that things aren't going well.

But as much as I hate cliches when I'm down, things happen for a reason and they just make you a stronger person for it.

Just take a road trip out to Baltimore and we'll enjoy some margaritas. That'll get your mind off things! :-)

Auburn Kat said...

I know exactly how you feel and I hope someday I will learn! Hang in there and let me know if you need anything. Remember, everything in life happens for a reason!

Princess Pointful said...

We've all been the fool more than few times. Don't beat yourself up. Plenty of love your way!!

freeandflawed said...

Sending you good vibes and hugs :)

Yoda said...

Oh no!

Very sorry to hear this. Hugs your way!

Miss A said...

oh I'm late (one of the last) to say hope you're feeling better soon.

Always here....

Libby said...

EFFING CLANCY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


if you need to vent...i'm just an email/gchat away.

Kate said...

Oh no! I wondered where you were but assumed you were busy being happy. I'm so sorry to hear I was wrong.

There is no shame in trying again, and no way you have done this to yourself (based on what I know, obviously). I think it was completely gutsy to give it another go, and I hope you know you deserve better and will find better.

hugs

Melissa said...

No shame on you.. Shame on him, him n only him.. Hang in there.. You've got a whole lot of ppl here thinking of you..

Anna said...

So sorry!

1218Blog said...

Take care of you! I hope you will be back with us soon.

The Ex said...

Oh Michelle. :( <3

Daddy Dan said...

What a fool he is. You deserve much, much better than him. Based on the type of person you seem to be, I'd anticipate a line of men waiting to take his place.

Your quote should be:
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, bye bye Loser."

Katie said...

I'm sorry you're not happy. I was wondering where you've been and I was hoping you were happy and just busy.

And NOT shame on you. Don't think like that. It's shame on HIM.

lspoon said...

I have to say it here too...you're amazing and I <3 you :)

trinity67 said...
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trinity67 said...

Oh shitty. I've just recently started reading your blog so although I don't know you that well, I just wanted you to know that I'm sorry that you're going through this.

Come back when you're ready - I love reading your stuff.

pinkhighheels said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this. All the shame should be put onto him. Here's to hoping you feel better soon!!

Julie Q said...

awww hope you're feeling better Michelle, take all the time you need. but we will miss you in the meantime!!!

Eve said...

Not shame on you! Forgiveness is not foolish.

Vanessa said...

While I don't know the details of what happened, I do know that life is not always fair. I'm so sorry your world has been changed, but just know that with change comes growth and with growth comes strength. Take good care of you during this process and know that your bloggie friends are pulling for you. HUG

cady said...

oh michelle i'm so sorry. you deserve so much better. *hugs*

Paula said...

Oh god, not you too!!! :( As someone who gave someone else a second chance too and ended up hurt all over again, I know exactly how you feel. Hope you are okay. It sounds like a cliche, but time does heal I'm finding. Just keep yourself busy and try not to think about him. Ideally if you don't see him around (unfortunately with my ex being my boss I don't have that luxury), its much easier to forget. There's someone better for you and (more importantly) someone who deserves you, out there. P x

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