Thursday, May 15, 2008

Should I Give Up, Or Should I Just Keep Chasing Pavements?

I never thought it would get here. Chasing someone that doesn't recognize I'm worth it. Doesn't respond to me or my feelings.



I think I'm giving up. Chasing pavements tends to give me skinned knees.

(thanks Each, this video is beautiful as is the song)

58 comments:

theselittlemoments said...

Be strong hunnie. We're all here for you. xoxoxo

Trish Ryan said...

You're so right...true love doesn't drag you across the pavement. The right guy wouldn't do that to you. And there IS a right guy, don't you doubt it for a minute. (Or when you doubt it, email one of us and we'll be more than happy to remind you).

Good for you for getting up off the ground. You can't have skinned up knees with cute skirt season coming :)

Jess said...

Ugh. I'm sorry you're having to deal with all of this. But I'm glad you're starting to realize that HE is the one who isn't worth it, precisely because he doesn't understand how great you are.

Passionista said...

It takes a strong person to realize they're worth more than what they're getting. It is hard to let go of the familiar. I'm glad to see you are here and writing. Good luck.

brookem said...

hang in there lady. big e-hugs to you.

3carnations said...

If he doesn't see what he has in you, then HE is the one missing out. :)

JulyBug said...

You = Awesome
He = Fool

lspoon said...

Jerkface, idiot, butthole...all names that come to mind when I think of that douchebag..ooh another name!

Hang in there sweetie :)

Kim said...

I was listening to my Sara Bareilles cd this morning and actually thought about you. Sometimes it doesn't seem worth chasing the pavement any longer...
Giving up, often a horrible phrase can sometimes be the wisest decision. Think of YOU. When the right person comes along, you will never have skinned knees. He obviously could not appreciate the beautiful person you are. Be thankful, now you can find people who are worthy you.

notperfectdotcom said...

xoxo babes.
Remember to take of you first, always.

Just Bob said...

I've been chasing some of my own pavement for about four months. I'm hanging in there because I think she's great and we could be perfect for each other. Or maybe I'm just naive and unwilling to give up the fantasy.

Hang in there... I hope you end up happy which ever decision you make.

Liz said...

You know what would make you feel better? come visit my blog and look at the pretty pictures from yesterday's post. (clue: there's a really hot guy over there)

Well, it works for me anyway. Look at that! I feel better already!

Playful Professional said...

Maybe they'll finally realize when you're not trying anymore, and they can't have you whenever they want.

tiff said...

xoxox
what a beautiful song.
hang in there.

Nic said...

Ugh, honey. He's a man who can't appreciate you. There's nothing in the world that makes that worthwhile. You have to keep pushing through this hurt. You have a huge support system who is ready to egg his house, for good reason. I was talking to a friend last night who just broke up with a boyfriend and it's one of those things that hurts so much right now - SO MUCH - but one day, you're going to look back because you will be leading a beautiful life, and be thankful you were released from the hold of someone who isn't capable of loving you fully. For every good moment you've had, think about how freaking amazing it's going to be when someone really appreciates you. You're heart is going to explode - as it should.

dreamgrrl said...

hehe i love that lspoon used the word butthole to describe him! you should get a little laugh at that :) Cheer up - things may look bleak now but it can only go up from here. remember that!

ashley said...

I'm sorry that you're going through such a rough time. Anyone that puts you through something like this isn't worth your time. You deserve so much more and you should be with someone who knows that.

Scotty said...

I have chased before, chased someone that didn't respond to me or my feelings. But, I believed. To me, at that time, I believed so much.

After the chasing was done, I was in the exact same place. Albeit much more hurt, extended over a period of time.

After that, I told myself that I will never be blinded by love again.

Sizzle said...

It's hard to know our worth, especially when we have feelings for someone and want to make it work any way possible. But someone, the right someone, will not make you chase it.

I am in love with Adele. She's wicked awesome. Great tune!

The Ex said...

Hugs, Michelle. I don't know whats going on but YOU ARE WORTH the absolute best.

L Sass said...

Michelle, dear, you are worth more than this. It's going to be okay, and you are going to be stronger. Maybe not right away, but eventually.

HUGS.

thecasualperfectionist.com said...

"Giving up" doesn't mean you're weak. Giving up the chase of someone who doesn't feel the same about you takes strength. Picking up the pieces of your life after something like this happens takes strength. Consciously moving on and leaving the past in the past takes strength.

You're strong! You can do this.

Ben said...

I love that video. Great choice despite the shitty situation. Hang in there, kiddo.

freeandflawed said...

I feel like we're in the same boat right now even though I'm sure our situations are completely different.

I agree with Passionista. It takes a strong person to realize they're worth more than what they're getting.

E-hugs and good vibes :)

lfar said...

<3 sucks a lot. you're worth so much!

Z said...

just a comment to repeat what everyone says above :)

you are amazing, and you will find someone who appreciates that!

Piper said...

Giving up is hard to do, but time will heal you. I tell my self this every day.
what a beautiful video, who is it that is singing?

Lacey Bean said...

You should never have to chase anybody for their love. That's immediately how you know they're not worth it!

YOU deserve to have someone who will meet you halfway... and then a little more. :)

Nilsa S. said...

You, my dear, are worth way more than the treatment you're receiving. Do me a favor. Take out that little compact. Look at yourself. And ask yourself if it's really worth it. Because I'm going there will be great challenges ahead of you as a couple (like with all couples - deaths, job loss, money issues, etc.) - and will he be able to give you the love and support you need for those big moments? Likely not if this is how he responds now. ((hugs))

DG said...

That's a smart realization... you will be fine... stay strong sweets!

Katelin said...

sending lots of hugs your way michelle. you will be okay :)

Wickedly Scarlett said...

You deserve so much more than skinned knees. I know you know that in your heart, but I also know how hard it is to let go of the comforts of the past. I hope the decision becomes clearer for you soon!

k said...

it all sounds cliche, but honestly, i think respect is the most important thing that a significant other can give you. if he can't respect you for all that you are worth, i think it is your own personal responsibility to respect yourself enough to walk away (easier said than done of course...).

grungedandy said...

I think I said it before as hard as it is you have to run hard in the opposite direction, if they love you they chase you! Can’t remember who said it but it really is true
If you love someone let them go if they come back they are yours if not they never were. I know it’s not what you want to hear & I know it’s really hard at the moment sweetie but we are here for you! You deserved to feel loved from head to toe and there is some one (if not at least a dozen blokes) out there who would be honoured to be by your side. Take your time to come to terms with this situation you gave it your all but from the little I’ve guessed from reading between the lines it seems it was a little one sided a true love romance is a two way street not always perfect some times a little snarled up but there is give & take and flow! And I think you will agree since I’ve had to trawl thought say about 30 comment to put my 2pence worth in you are loved by us, who although no replacement for a man don’t want to see you be disrespected by someone who has blinkers on! Nuff said be strong, you are in my thoughts, I find chocolate always helps Seeya hugya *G*

Deutlich said...

skinned knees do not sound pleasant.. at all. :(

::hugs::

Yoda said...

There is wisdom in not doing things that hurt you. Skinned knees are a prime example.

alyndabear said...

That song is gorgeous.
And don't let a few scraped knees get you down; just remember that YOU are worth it. And that there might be more falls in the future, but there is a reason for everything.
Time for a change. xo

pinkhighheels said...

I agree with k, respect is a priority in any relationship. If he doesn't respect you, he's not worth you respecting him. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way!

Tia said...

dude. YOU should be the one BEING CHASED. seriously.

xoxo

Vanessa said...

You deserve to be treated with the kindness, respect and love that you are worthy of. He does not sound worthy of you.

Kristen said...

Situation sucks but hey you posted a blog :) stay cheery.

Katyn said...

if you want a copy of her cd, just say the word. because, seriously, the majority of the songs on it are probably fitting and will help you out. "cold shoulder" and "melt my heart to stone" are really good songs.

Princess Pointful said...

Sweetie, if you know you are worth more than that, you are miles ahead of him.

Just A Girl In GA said...

Hi Michelle, I am a blog lurker (for a few weeks now). Good Luck and you will know if this is the right thing.

Do not second guess your feelings if you are ready to stop "chasing pavement" then the time is right.

Stay calm and love yourself - you seem like such a sweet girl.

B2G said...

I second Nic, word for word. You deserve and will get something so much better. But I know how much it hurts right now. XOXO

Kt said...

I've been there before - it's hard to see someone else hurting. My friend is also going through some heartache right now and the best advice I gave her is to focus on herself and stop trying to figure him out.

Do things that make you happy and hang in there.

The Brooklyn Boy said...

Keep chasing pavements kid. Can't catch 'em if you don't try.

Starlet aka Minutestar said...

I'm a new follower to your blog..but it won't stop me from giving you this:

*SUPER DUPER BIG HUGS*

I know it really sucks right now, but things will get better!!

P.S. spending one whole day in your fave spa usually helps ;)

chasinglibby said...

you ARE worth it. he doesn't deserve you. not one bit.

Larissa said...

I felt this same way for MONTHS while in a destructive relationship with someone who was truly not worth me or my heart. I realized that there was no shame in throwing in the towel. It was one of the best decisions I ever made for myself.

I hope you will have courage to do what will be good for YOU.

1218Blog said...

:hugs: :(

by the way I moved my blog. no longer 1218blog now

http://girlinterrupted1218.wordpress.com/

Sex Misspelled said...

long time reader, first time poster...sorry for your bad luck. i hope you heal soon.

whenever you're ready, stop by and write him a letter. i'm sure you've got a lot to say.

freckledk said...

I promise you that there is nothing more satisfying than walking away from a doomed relationship, as opposed to being pushed out of one. Hang in there; you will soon be proud of yourself for having done the best/right thing FOR YOU.

Dolce said...

Michelle, I'm so sorry. It's hard to see the future, but I promise there is someone better out there! It'll hit you when you least expect it!

Rachel said...

Like everyone else has said...We are thinking of you and looking forward to your return.

ChasingParadise said...

Hang in there, lady. You deserve way better than this. xoxo

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

ONE OF MY VERY FAVORITE VIDEOS. EVER.

Paula said...

I hate that song. But he is an ass and you deserve so much better.